Dating a workaholic commitment phobic
If the girl starts to give up on him, he’ll find some way to subtly give her hope for some kind of future. What usually ends up happening is that sooner or later, the “better thing” the guy was waiting for appears and the moment it does, he disappears. I don’t know if it was Hollywood movies, music, TV, an ever-increasing sense of entitlement, a decline in social perceptiveness across the populous… If you’re seeing a guy for a few weeks, everything is up in the air – just relax and let things run their course without being worried.After all, he doesn’t want to lose his emotional crutch/sexual outlet security blanket – then he’d be not only emotionally weakened, but also alone. If you’re the guy, this isn’t such a bad situation since he was able to enjoy a cozy comfortable pseudo-relationship in between. But if you’ve spent the majority of your free time with a guy for the last couple of months – you eat together, sleep together and support each other emotionally – and he’s making no effort to lock you down… Amy told me about a recent conversation with the man she thought she wanted to marry:"Am I the crazy one here? He practically lives with me and I've never even seen his place! He says, 'Can't we just keep things like they were? Amy is dealing with a man who suffers from commitment-phobia and a deep fear of intimacy.
Their own homes are often nothing more than a way-station to shower, change clothes and sleep on those rare occasions they can't stay with you.4. Once they have you, the less attractive parts of their personality start to show.5. Commitment-phobes don't do conflict and can't deal with rejection.
So now we’re at this point: Girl has poured months or of love and obsession into this guy, hoping he’ll one day come around.
Guy has become emotionally dependent on the girl for her love and support, but he knows in his heart that the situation isn’t what he actually wants.
So months or years go by and the girl just figures (even after all this time) that if she just loves him enough, he’ll be strong enough to love her back.
At this point, she’s in deep too – she’s invested so much into a relationship that she hopes will someday happen, but has yet to ever make its debut into reality.They tend to compartmentalize the different parts of their life.